Stop Asking For Permission

March 1st, 2011

Since we were kids, we always had to ask for permission.

Can I have chocolate milk? No!

Can I play with my friends? You are too young!

Can I have a sleepover? Not yet!

While these could fall into the category of good parenting with certain age groups, we seem to bring these thought processes into our adult life.

The problem comes when we are waiting on someone else to take the lead because no one has given us permission.

So, we still wait on the chocolate milk.

But that mindset needs to be smashed when you want to succeed.

“You need to pay $300/month for a 30 second ad spot to be on the radio”. Sorry, I’ll take the $300 and start my own show.

“You need to bow at the alter of the publishers to have a shot of telling your story.” Sorry, I’ll self publish my own book…not for myself, but as a gift to help others who are hurting.

“You are crazy start a business in this economy!” Maybe so, but fill a need that people want……..you will make your own economy.

I am not patting myself on the back but the main question is:

Are you still waiting to ask for permission to be successful?

Abner

Great post! I agree sometimes, we just deflate when we hit an obstacle.
Anonymous

Pushing through sometimes or just taking a step could mean all the difference
http://buildingconfidentleaders.com/ Jeff Brunson

“It’s easier to get forgiveness than permission.” I don’t know who should get original credit for for that, but I know who said it to me; and I shall always remember for that and many other cool things she said.

I was just telling someone yesterday how I often say to a coaching client, “Okay, I’m giving you permission to …” It is indeed amazing that in a free country, adults still need permission.

The world is blessed because you did not wait for it!
http://www.InnerResourceCenter.com Linda Pucci

Gregg, you raise such an important issue. We all need to give OURSELVES permission to do what we know is best for us. No one can know what fits us better than we do.
Anonymous

couldnt agree more Linda
Anonymous

Spot on Jeff: The world is blessed because you did not wait for it!
Imagine what this world would look like if no one take a leap……frightening!
http://bluecollarradionetwork.com James Dibben

Gregg, you certainly have been an inspiration for me! I see how focused you are and the ground you are covering and I want to do the same!

Great post!
Anonymous

Thanks James for the kind words, really appreciate it! and likewise…you have been a HUGE help to my business. Appreciate the big heart
Maryellen

Absolutely Gregg. And you more than anyone I know are breaking ground and forging ahead. You have turned adversity into success. Congratulations!
Anonymous

Thank you Mary Ellen…..my fellow Linchpin
Alana

Thanks. I realized a week or so that I was waiting for my mom to tell me what to do next. I wasn’t taking responsibility for my decisions about my weight and lack of discipline because I was waiting. My mom died in 1985. Twenty-six years later I finally realized that I’m on my own and the waiting has to end. I’m trying to move forward now.
Anonymous

I am sorry to hear about your mom Alana……hang in there, and keep pressing forward….

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